Archive for the ‘News’ Category

A Good Partner Tends to Be a Good Parent

Thursday, December 20th, 2012

A new study from the University of Bristol shows that humans use the same traits to be caring toward our partners as we do to nurture our children. This was discovered in a study to study how caregiving plays out in a family and how one relationship affects another. The study looked at 125 couples with children between 7 and 8 years old. It examined how the couples were attached to each other and the parenting styles that were used, as well as their parents’ “caregiving responsiveness.” Caregiving responsiveness is essentially the ability to respond appropriately to a person’s moods and needs.


Read the full article here: A Good Partner Tends to Be a Good Parent

Having it All (Sort Of)

Wednesday, December 19th, 2012

Therapist Holly Brown writes that life is all about trade-offs. If people are willing to make trade-offs, they might not be able to have it all, but they can have a lot. What this means is examining the choices people make and what effect they have on other aspects of their lives. If it can be determined what things can be sacrificed or traded off in order to accomplish other things that are desired, a person can find an individual and very personal lifestyle that gives them the most of what they’re looking for in life.


Read the full article here: Having it All (Sort Of)

9 Reasons You’re Stuck Where You Are

Tuesday, December 18th, 2012

If a person doesn’t like where their life is at, they have not only the choice to change it, but also the obligation. The key is in taking small, manageable steps. While change may be hard, it is important to keep moving. If a person feel stuck, it is probably because they have ceased to move forward. Here are nine reasons why that might be the case. A person may be stuck if they can’t take responsibility for their circumstances. If a person doesn’t believe they have any bearing on where they are, they are unlikely to take the initiative to make a change. Another reason for being stuck may be giving in to fears.


Read the full article here: 9 Reasons You’re Stuck Where You Are

The Myth of the “Strong” Person

Sunday, December 16th, 2012

In managing our relationship with ourselves and our relationships with other people, it is important to recognize what character traits, emotions, and behaviors hurt us more than they help. What we see in ourselves and others has a strong impact on how we view both ourselves and others. The idea of the “strong” person can be problematic in this context because there is often inaccuracy in how we label “strength” which can then impact the qualities that we admire in ourselves and others. Common traits identified as “strong” are grandiosity, contempt, rigidity, stubbornness, aggressiveness, and the desire to control others. These traits are often confused with “strength” because of their association with “power.”

Read the full article here: The Myth of the “Strong” Person

The Mindset Shift that Changed My Life

Saturday, December 15th, 2012

Cody Wheeler had a major mindset shift while he was approaching the end of his bachelor’s degree. At that point he displayed what might be thought of as typical college behavior. He spent his time playing video games, sleeping in, hanging out with friends, or going to parties. His grades were fine, but there was not much forward momentum to his life. For him, it took a time inventory assignment to open his eyes to the time he wasted every week. A similar technique might work for everyone. The actual project was to keep a journal recording what was done for every single hour throughout an entire week. How is your time spent?

Read the full article here: The Mindset Shift that Changed My Life

Can Self-Compassion Help the Self-Loathing Person?

Saturday, December 15th, 2012

The following article is a response to a popular blog post published on the New York Times website titled, “Go Easy on Yourself, a New Wave of Research Urges.” The theme of the article was self-compassion. Dr. Mark D. White considers the blog and how, or if, it can be applied to people who suffer from self-loathing. The problem with self-compassion as applied to a person who suffers self-loathing, is that a self-loathing person does not respond to external praise well. They will minimize it or dismiss it, because they know themselves better than the person praising them and “know” that they do not deserve the praise.

Read the full article here: Can Self-Compassion Help the Self-Loathing Person?

Holiday Cocktail for Depression

Friday, December 14th, 2012

The perfect cocktail recipe for holiday depression has been discovered. Its ingredients are stress, financial insecurity, family gatherings, holiday music on endless replay, and alcohol. Someone who is depressed may be more on edge than ever during the holiday season, feeling smothered by the cheer and goodwill they feel that they are supposed to feel. Turning to drink may seem to temporarily lead to that cheer, but usually leads to a holiday ending that can leave them feeling both emotionally and physically hung over. What they may not realize is that alcohol is a depressant and can serve to only exacerbate a season that can cause enough stress on its own.

Read the full article here: Holiday Cocktail for Depression

Self-Nurturing: The Key to Holiday Harmony

Friday, December 14th, 2012

While we are in the season of high spirits and holiday cheer, some people find that the season leaves them feeling flat and empty. Those people might be surprised to find that they are not alone in those feelings, and that beneath the cheer many people feel overwhelmed by the obligation and busy schedules imposed upon them by friends and family. A few self-nurturing actions can make a big difference in finding balance in the holiday season and allow us to enjoy ourselves more. A first step is to step back and really consider the holiday season in an attempt to discover what the season really means to us personally.

Read the full article here: Self-Nurturing: The Key to Holiday Harmony

3 Essential Signs of a Good Partner

Thursday, December 13th, 2012

Maya Ackerman used to keep a list of what qualities her perfect partner would have. Tall, smart, with brown hair and blue eyes, etc. With exceptions, of course. She sought after a partner that could meet all of these requirements and struggled to hold on when she found one that seemed perfect, even when the relationship itself was not a happy one. Eventually, after a three-year struggle to make things work with Mr. Perfect, she threw away her list and made a new one about how to find Mr. Right. The new list is about how a person makes her feel.

Read the full article here: 3 Essential Signs of a Good Partner

How to Use the Next 4 Weeks to Do Something Life-Changing in 2013

Sunday, December 9th, 2012

There is a lot of emotion packed into the month of December, from stress about time, money, and inclement weather to the relaxation of time off from work, good food, and more time available to spend with the family. December also carries a bit of melancholy with it as the year winds down along with the month over things not accomplished and a hope of better things to come next year. How can we guarantee a positive change in the upcoming year? One way is to give ourselves an hour out of every week in December to start planning a life-changing new habit so that it’s ready to implement when the new year arrives.

Read the full article here: How to Use the Next 4 Weeks to Do Something Life-Changing in 2013

Terms of Use | Privacy Policy

Shea Kamlet, Psy.D.
Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor
6087 S. Quebec Street Suite 103
Centennial , CO , 80112
(303) 355-5602

This hCard created with the hCard creator.