Life is a continuous thread of endings and new beginnings, transitions if you will. The human condition is constantly in flux, always changing. We transition through relatively small events without much notice. However, when we experience a significant loss or a major life transition, we often engage in a process of grieving. Even when the past was undesirable, it is still familiar and, consequently, comfortable. When pushed outside of our comfort zone, most people report feeling fearful and vulnerable when facing uncertainty particularly when the changes affect emotional, physical and financial security.

There are things you can do to facilitate the process:

• Allow yourself to experience the full range and intensity of emotional reactions including negative feelings such as anger, disappointment, sadness, confusion, frustration and resentment;
• Identify the steps that need to occur in order to move toward letting go;
• Accept change and uncertainty as natural aspects of life;
• Recognize transitions as opportunities to know yourself more deeply and to move closer toward a life that fits with your values and priorities;
• Avoid isolation…friends & family want to be supportive, but are often unclear about what is needed. Ask for help & be specific about what you need! Engage in activities that allow you to cultivate interests & socialize with like-minded adults;
• Psychotherapy can be a tremendous source of support & a helpful way to expand your resources during a difficult time in your life.

Dr. Sheila Kamlet, Psy.D.

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